Don’t Look Back!

The past looks good right, or does it?

Disclaimer: Listen when I said Write Fire with Fire, I meant it. Ya'll ain't ready for this!

Let's travel to the past for a minute. I wanna go way back with you guys. Looking back on let’s say the past 10 years of your life I’m sure there are things you are not proud of. Things you did in the spur of the moment that may not have been a good idea. I have those moments too. It’s okay to have regrets. It’s okay to have skeletons in the closet. That’s what makes us human.

But hey it’s not all bad right? There are also those moments you’re proud of like that time you scored the winning goal or when you did something to help a friend, it could be anything. Whatever it may be you did it and it made you feel good, right?

I know that life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. So give yourself a break, you’re doing the best you can.

There could be times where we find yourself wallowing in the “what ifs”and the “could have been” it’s fun to imagine how life could have turned out. However the reality is that we can’t go back and we can’t change the past. So instead think about what drove you to make that decision in the first place?

Fate according to the go to search engine GOOGLE is described as...

The development of events outside a person's control, regarded as predetermined by a supernatural power. What is destined to happen, turn out, or act in a particular way.

Our lives are already written out as fate describes but the decisions we make may alter that fate. I know scary right?! That basically means that we are one decision away from stepping into to wrong path. However that doesn’t mean that we are doomed for all eternity. Okay wait let me break it down. Yes the decisions we make can change our fate but that doesn’t mean it’s changed forever (look at the prodigal son). It may be changed for a moment, when we realize what that moment taught that’s where the change happens. We don’t look at the problem or the mistake we made anymore but we look at why it had to happen. I know it’s a lot, let’s make this easier…

"We write the story of our lives one decision at a time."

Here comes the sob story that we have all heard. “The first heartbreak” Queue the water works.

We all had that person who was the moon and the stars one day and broke your heart the next. It’s sad right!? It’s like a thousand knives just pierced your heart and all you want to do is crawl into a tiny hole and cry for the rest of your life. Don’t worry I’ve felt it too.

One thing it taught me is that God will never allow pain without purpose. He won’t let you wallow in pain for no reason.

Look at you now, you overcame it. You made it out on the other side and you’re doing better than you did. Now that you are on the other side don’t look back to that relationship and wonder “what if” or “maybe I should have” it’s gone it’s in the past you can’t go back and change anything. I’ve looked back and did all the regretting. Trust me it’s not worth it. If anything it caused more pain than good. Look it doesn’t have to be a heartbreak. It can be anything, anything at all that made you feel some type of way.

Alright I know that was a bit violent, but I am trying to prove a point so bear with me. anyway back to what I was saying :)

I’ve learnt that all that pain that I felt made me the person I am today. Because if I hadn’t gone through that I wouldn’t have known that there is something better than what I went through. Don’t focus on the pain or regret, focus on what it taught you instead. Don’t hold on to that memory it’s okay to let it go. That person hurt you, that one left you, another broke your heart…. It’s okay to let it go, because if you hold on to it you hold on to the past and that holds you back. Yeah I know it’s easy for me to say and harder to do. I may not be able to tell you what to do but what I can do is show you that there is something better. I look back now and thank God that He did not leave me in my cave in a pool of tears.

I know that was a mouthful. Basically all I am saying is that looking back is not worth it. We don't have to have everything figured out. Sometimes things happen and the only thing we can do is control our reaction towards it. Even when it hurts we cannot allow ourselves to be burdened with the pain. Let it go. you will discover that there is so much peace in it. But then again we only human and sometimes the only natural response is rage. Fire filled rage. The type that cartoons describe as fire coming out of your ears. I swear I've been that angry before and it kinda feels like my ears are burning. You know hat I mean?

Anyway a lot has been said. I just wish everyone reading this that you will be able to find peace in the things you cannot change and know that it is okay to Let Go - let God deal with it. He is able to take you out of any rut and set your feet on solid rock. Trust me I know, He has done it for me a thousand times.

Remember there is purpose behind very pain.

The the peace of God that exceeds all understanding will keep your hearts and minds safe in Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:7

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